Dear Abby,
My wife is acting strangely lately and I don’t know what to do. She is not doing any of her natural duties as a wife. I have noticed that she does not care for her kids like most mother-women do. For example, I told her one of our children might be sick and she wouldn’t even check on him. She just said that the child was fine when she put him to bed and wouldn’t believe my concerns. She might not be the natural mother-woman but she still is obligated to her children and her husband. What should I do to make her realize this? She won’t even receive visitors every Tuesday like she used to. This could ruin my relations with the husbands and their business. She walks alone to places unknown and returns very late at night. Something changed when we went to Grand Isle this summer. Maybe it was the man she was always with that she never sees anymore. Should I get professional help from a doctor? I don’t want to tell her that I think she might have problems mentally. How should I handle this? Please help me!
Sincerely,
A Worried Father and Husband
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Leonce writes this letter due to his confusion about his wife’s behavior. He started to see a difference in her at Grand Isle and continues to see changes in her personality when they return home. She doesn’t talk to him about how she is feeling and he is afraid to confront her about what is truly going on. He doesn’t understand what is going on or how to help better the situation. He’s looking for advice and how to get his family life straightened out.
Dear A Worried Father and Husband,
Do not fret about your wife, she is just adjusting to some changes with her friend Robert leaving for Mexico so suddenly. She is not mentally ill my dear sir, she just needs some space to think and breath. If you want my expert advise I suggest you just leave her alone, let her do what she wants. I believe you should make her go to her sisters wedding, maybe she is homesick? Do not take her on your upcoming business trip, just let her stay home alone for awhile, let her miss you. If none of my advice works I suggest you ask your physician about her, or ask her what is wrong face to face. Hope my advice helps.
Yours Truly,
Abby
A Worried Father and Husband,
I believe that you need to talk to your wife. If you do not always know where she is going at times you probably do not spend enough time with her. Perhaps you spend a lot of time with your work and not enough time with her? This may also be the reason she is not spending a lot of time with you. If she can not talk to you about things, then she might go to someone else to let out her feelings. This person could very well be the man she met on Grand Isle. If you spend more time with her she might realize how lucky she is to have a great husband like you and therefore might become more of the mother-woman that you desire. If that does not help you then yes, I would suggest professional help from a doctor. I wish you good luck in whatever you do.
Yours truly,
Abby
Dear A Worried Father and Husband,
Your worries seem as severe as they should be. If she does not care for the kids or you and has not mentioned something about the cause you need to sit her down and talk to her before your time runs out. She may be having an affair and she may not have any interest in you anymore; consequently, she sees you in your kids and the result is the same: less interest. Some women just get tired of being “owned”, which is how they feel after constant reminders to tend to the children, housework, and you too. A nice vacation could definitely help, leaving her with some self relaxation time so she can get her priorities straight on her own. Sometimes some people are “overcooked” as I like to call it, which simply means that they are burnt out on the same repeating jobs. The best recommendation is to give her the space she deserves and let her find herself with some relaxation. You have our best wishes!
Sincerely,
Abby